Why you may be Hijacking your own Growth.
We were last talking to Antonia and Joel about their Car Model. If you view your mind as a car, there are 4 different passengers within the car. There are two passengers in the front that help navigate us in life in making decisions and learning. There are two lesser developed, “child” passengers in the back that show up in times of stress.
Everybody has one optimal way of learning and making decisions. They also have one weak way of making decisions and learning in life. With each of these learning and decision making functions, there is a healthy and unhealthy way that they are developed, or guide us in life.
Joel and Antonia continue discussing in detail, the 4 different ways people learn and 4 ways people make decisions. They will go over the healthy and unhealthy ways that they can manifest and why people sometimes “Pretend” to be someone they’re not.
A father and son may have the same personality type yet not be able to see eye to eye. Can you discuss growth levels within each type?
Antonia: Right so typology won’t tell you how mature the person is. And that’s a very important piece of the puzzle.
Joel: My daughter is 4 years old. She’s my personality type. Does she have the ability to do what I’m able to? Can she write articles or build her own business? Of course not. She has to grow and develop skill around those things.
Her mind might be wired the same, but there’s still skill that comes with it.
She might not be interested in the same things I am, and grow in a different way.
The most important thing to remember, and this is why personality typing is so powerful, is that a lot us are not showing up at our best potential.
A lot of us are “blending,” pretending to be a different person than how we naturally are. This can be because our parents are different types and brought us up to act and behave a certain way, to show up just like them.
It can be that society tells us that we aren’t “normal.” That we aren’t acting or behaving the way we should be.
Different cultures around the world will honor different personality types, depending on the trend or fad of the time. So we have fads or trending personality types people try to emulate. They pretend and try to blend in with the type that the society values.
For introverts, trying to act like extroverts all their lives. This can be very exhausting and stressful.
So it’s important to understand that all the different types need to show up as their natural wiring dictates. If we do that, we can have a really balanced social ecosystem.
But if we’re constantly in hiding, it means that first of all, we can’t show up at our best. How could we, when we’re trying to pretend that we’re somebody else.
Second, we’re exhausted because we’re not showing up as our natural selves. If we can fully be our natural selves, then we get in our flow and get energy by doing it. But not showing up as ourselves, will drain us.
It zapps our batteries and takes 3x times the work or effort to do half the work.
Third, it causes a lot of emotional trauma and wounding around this. If we can’t show up as our authentic self, it will actually hurt us. We feel psychologically and emotionally hurt by this.
Those comments or messages that we get subconsciously, that something is wrong with us is very damaging to our psyche.
So now we have a bunch of trauma that we have to recover from before we can grow. This can keep us completely buried in our own sh*! Constantly feeling bad about how we are as a human being, as opposed to feeling good about ourselves.
If you can understand how you’re supposed to be and feel comfortable in your own skin, then you can contribute to make your community or the world a better place. As opposed to always focusing on your trauma or trying to hide your emotional pain.
So understanding your personality type is extremely powerful, in all aspects of your life. It teaches you what your flow is, your natural state. It teaches you that it’s okay to be your personality type. It helps the entire social ecosystem become more balanced.
It takes us out of our own sh*! and negative thought patterns.
It can lift a heavy burden and help guide you to become the best version of yourself, to bring your talents to the world.
This can be very powerful for people and the society around you.
Can you go over the healthy and unhealthy ways Cognitive Functions appear?
Antonia: So I’ll go over the technical names and the nicknames we’ve given the cognitive functions. Each one can show up in healthy or unhealthy ways.
4 Decision making process:
Extraverted Thinking (Effectiveness): This is the impersonal thinking, based on outer resources. Are we doing things that work? Is whatever happening actually working in the outside world? It makes things happen, organizes people and resources to accomplish goals. Effectiveness is great at putting systems in place to accomplish goals.
At best, Effectiveness mobilizes resources and large teams of people to accomplish remarkable things. Top military leaders and CEO’s are usually Effectiveness users. Nothing is more satisfying to Effectiveness user as completing goals and missions.
At their worst, Effectiveness people can be very demanding and unable to cope with an environment they are unable to control.
Introverted Thinking (Accuracy): This is subjective, impersonal criteria. Accuracy asks, “Does this make sense?” Accuracy driven people are driven by facts more than people. Sometimes other people seem like data points to an Accuracy user. They seek truth as the ultimate virtue. But truth can be subjective, so they must sort through a lot of data to grasp as clear a picture as possible. Emotions are inconsistent, so when making decisions, emotions take a back seat.
At best, Accuracy tells truth without judgment. It’s not trying to determine what’s good or bad, just what makes sense. Like, Einstein, they like to study the secrets of the universe through careful, uncorrupted study. This leads to knowledge that blows us away, and helps us gain perspective through these amazing journeys of science and discovery.
At worst, an Accuracy person is an argumentative know-it-all. They try to prove their superiority of information by arguing and questioning any conclusion that they did not personally discover themselves. Since they don’t take other people’s emotions into account, they can be inconsiderate and hurtful in their communication.
Extraverted Feeling (Harmony): This is the human criteria based decision making process.
How is my decision going to make everybody else feel? They make choices with other people’s feelings in consideration. It connects emotionally with others and understands people’s needs and meets them through organized efforts.
People who use Harmony have an uncanny ability to understand unwritten social rules, social dynamics, and culture. They are driven to create and maintain harmony with the people around them. They determine the value of information you give them based upon the emotional impact it will have on other people.
At worst, they can be emotionally unstable and controlling. They can be driven to try to create harmony, even if they don’t know how to. They can be manipulative and try to control others to do what “they think is best” for everyone.
Introverted Feeling (Authenticity): This is a subjective feeling criteria. Authenticity asks, “Does this feel right to me?” When we need to make a decision that is true and honest to who we are, you use Authenticity. It understands how events impacts individual emotions, and makes choices accordingly.
Authenticity people are driven by personal conviction more than any other consideration. Sometimes it can be difficult to motivate an Authenticity person unless they’re personally inspired. However, once committed, they can be an unstoppable powerhouse. They can become an inspiration to others, when aligned with their convictions and lead a mission.
At worst, Authenticity people are fickle, unable to tell the difference between something that feels “wrong” or simply feeling “bad”. Unable to deal with any internal negative feelings, they can become impossible to please, projecting all their internal discomfort onto friends and family.
The way people Perceive & Learn Information
Introverted Sensing (Memory): Understanding and learning based on past experiences.
Introverted Intuition (Perspectives): Understanding patterns and abstract concepts. Thinking of the what if’s and possibilities. Perspectives doesn’t just think outside the box, it thinks about the box. The further down the rabbit’s hole of any topic you can go the more Perspectives people will be gripped.
Extraverted Sensing (Sensation): Understanding the outside world based on kinesthetics. They are in tune with their senses and in the moment, here and now. Sensation people have trouble sitting still to learn. They learn by engaging with things at the tangible level.
Extraverted Intuition (Exploration): Understanding by exploring and testing outer world.
Exploration loves to think outside the box and asking “what if?” questions.
Can you give an example of how the Car Model works for your personality type?
My personality type is ENTP. So this would be an example of my Car Model.
Everybody has a different stack of 4-Letters for each personality type, depending on which end of the dichotomy they are leaning towards.
ENTP (Extrovert, Intuitive, Thinking, Perceiving) would be an example. This shows your mental wiring. For an ENTP they lead with a mental process called extroverted intuition, which we nicknamed “Exploration.” They lead with this learning process. Their Auxiliary function is introverted thinking, or “Accuracy,” which is a decision making process. When you make an effort to use and learn more about your co-pilot, you can become an extremely good at what you do, essentially becoming the best version of yourself.
So everybody has 1 strong decision making and learning processes which leads to growth. But they also have an undeveloped decision making and learning process. They show up in states of stress as a less developed 10 year old and 3 year old process.
Basically, the more you spend time in your Co-Pilot mode. The more you get out of your comfort zone and use it, the more you can grow.
What you don’t want, is to spend time in your 10-year old or 3-year old process, as it’s very unhealthy.
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JOEL MARK WITT BIO
Joel Mark Witt is a speaker, writer, and digital media entrepreneur with a focus on personal growth and transformational leadership. His specialties include, marketing, content creation, project management, and helping business increase sales through digital media.
As the co-owner and CEO of Personality Hacker, he oversees a new kind of publishing company that merges digital media with emerging models of human development focused on helping people “hack” their personalities and create more happiness in their lives.
He speaks at numerous influential industry conferences discussing emerging technology and its impact on social media marketing, podcasting, and personal branding. He also hosts various workshops to train and consult with businesses and professionals, helping them to increase their bottom line through social media branding and content marketing.
ANTONIA DODGE BIO
Seeing how people tick is at the heart of Antonia’s natural ability to understand how people and systems work. She is an author, thought leader, coach, and systems thinker. Her expertise is in personality profiling.
She has over 10 years experience in applied psychoanaltyics and profiled hundreds of people. She does consulting for businesses and has helped companies such as Zappos, Hot Topic Media, Oracle, and Voyage Media. She has also served on the leadership team for TED (Technology, Entertainment, Design) Talks.
Antonia Dodge is currently the co-owner and Lead Trainer at Personality Hacker. She has developed over 20 high level training systems, products and resources. Antonia has co-developed a 6-month profiler training course that teaches coaches and business professionals how to speed read people and understand how their mind works. She helps them to work with each unique personality type for team building, achieving business goals and life purposes.